Diary of an Honest Naturalista: Week 71

On my way home from church on Sunday, I was in a public transport with peace, a younger girl of about 21 years old. She has had to work with me in church, on different occasions, and really looks up to me. She had one long cheap weave on her head, but underneath she had natural hair. Peace’s hair is really full, and beautiful, when exposed. I meat peace over 4 years ago, and she has gone back to relaxers hair twice in those four years, although she is fully natural now, and has been for over a year. She grew up in Deeper Life church, and when she became an independent teen, she started relaxing her hair. She didn’t like it, and went back to being natural, before succumbing twice.

Peace is always looking at my hair, telling me how beautiful it is, how courageous I am, and how people are always pestering her to relax her hair. Peace has a very brash nature, and used to be really rude in the past, so she just tells them off. She confided in me that many times, the pressure and comments about her hair get to her, and I believe this is one of the reasons she went back to relaxers previously.

Her typical conversation with me is like…

“Aunty Anna, this your hair is fine o.” She starts.

“Thanks.” I reply.

“I did this type of hair too last week. Yours is really fine sha.”

“Wow, are you serious? That’s great.”

Let’s just say she’s always looking at my hair, and staring in awe, even though she has beautiful hair herself. I wonder why she has recently been covering it up, despite the fact that she’s madly in love with natural hair.

So on our way back home, after I paid her transport fair, she asked me a surprising question which I was shocked was coming from her.

“But Aunty Anna, why don’t you want to relax your hair?” She started.

I was too shocked to control my reply. “What do you mean by why don’t I want to relax my hair? Why should I relax my hair?” I retorted.

“I just want to know why you don’t want to relax your hair.” She fired back.

I was exasperated.

Jack Nicholson is sick of your bs
“’Cause I just don’t want to!!!” I blurted, almost getting to the point of shouting at her. “Why should I relax my hair?”

“Because people just relax their hair. That’s the normal thing.”

At this point I said. “We should be asking people why they relax their hair, not people coming to ask me why I don’t relax my hair. This is my hair, this is how it looks. No one should come and ask me why I am keeping my hair the way it is. Ask them why they are relaxing their hair.”

At this time, Peace just looked at me, and got quiet.

I think she got the point, and I suspect she would be using that line when next she gets asked the question she threw at me. I just pray she’s not rude about it, cos she can be very brash.

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  1. Lol but u too were a bit brash

  2. All thespecially questions like why don't relax your hair , when are u going to do your hair , is that how ur going out with ur hair like that etc they become very annoying to a natural ...

    1. When people won't just mind their bizness. What do you expect?

  3. I hate that question eh it's very annoying, the next one is 'so you will never relax ur hair again'? I can be rude wen I get questions like that o! Mind ur relaxed hair lemme mind my natural hair

  4. I luv my natural hair for the fact that natural hair can do anything u want it to look like, I remember when I first go natural ppls were asking all such of questions, sum of my friend like it while sum don't bt unfortunate I got to find out that those ones that doesn't like my hair then 're going natural now. its good seeing ladies with they natural hair & enlightens them more.

    1. That's what always happens. Your biggest critics always end up going natural themselves.

  5. I v got a new one! ' WHY DO YOU RELAX YOUR HAIR'? I can only imagine the dumb answers i am going to get. hehehehehehehehe. lol

  6. Abi o. Let everybody answer funny questions


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