tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143366796764247140.post6126110932563195293..comments2024-02-14T20:03:18.257+01:00Comments on African Naturalistas: After Trying, what next?African Naturalistashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05959650242643247597noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143366796764247140.post-64802883834629186102013-04-29T08:26:59.279+01:002013-04-29T08:26:59.279+01:00I think a lot of the time we expect our hair to be...I think a lot of the time we expect our hair to behave like the weaves or relaxed hair we've gotten so used to. It comes as a shock when we realise that it will never bounce, lie flat, be straight or even behave! But that's the beauty of natural hair; it does what it wants to do, when it wants to!<br /><br />The good news is that it responds to the right stimuli. Keep it moisturized, massage your scalp and love your oils and your hair will grow.<br /><br />I just did a second BC (my first was in 2007) last week after transitioning for 10 months, and while my TWA fills my heart with glee (I have always loved short hair as a style, not just a step on the path to long hair), some days I get frustrated with it. It thinks for itself, arranges itself, and does what it likes up there on my head. But I've come to accept it. <br /><br />And sometimes your natural hair surprises you. If anyone had told me that simply spritzing my TWA and "feeding" it oils daily would make the curl pattern loosen up, I wouldn't have believed it. But there it is.<br /><br />The idea that your hair is going to reach epic lengths in a short time frame is ridiculous. That's like trying to lose 50 kg in a month! It's just another way women put pressure on themselves to meet up with others. Go at your own pace, do everything right, and your hair will grow. If you faithfully cowash, condition, oil, massage and protective style, things will turn out okay. <br /><br />Patience is key though.<br /><br />It will take a while to get anywhere near the YouTube queens, but in the interim, I'm loving what God gave me, and so should all the other beautiful African Queens (natural and relaxed!).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00753639479401074180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143366796764247140.post-35103925406972933932013-04-25T11:09:43.170+01:002013-04-25T11:09:43.170+01:00I think a whole lot of problem comes with the atti...I think a whole lot of problem comes with the attitude we carry into our natural hair journey. So many of us go with so much melodrama like "Help me, I am going to hell, where I would have to go through so much stress, and spend so much money, and still have ugly and shrunken hair *wails*". Then we complain and complain. Why the melodrama? <br /><br />Finally, they get what they expect. i.e. the negativity. Natural hair is not one hell that many think it to be. <br /><br />If we can just know that natural hair is truly fun (and I'm not saying that to console anyone), we will come to love the journey, and even all the 'stress' associated with it. <br /><br />Shebi relaxed people have the stress they go through too, waiting under dryers, gluing their hair here and there, dealing with scalp injuries like a badly-iron blouse, etc, but I don't see so much melodrama among them.<br /><br />Natural hair is fun, and as you have said, let's watch and wait and see. The results would speak for itself in the end.African Naturalistashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05959650242643247597noreply@blogger.com